What to Do If You Are Being Stalked or Harassed
Although not a complete list, the following list explains some things you should or should not do when being harassed by a stalker:
- Consider obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)
- Do not confront your stalker or engage in a conversation with them. Do not under any circumstances agree to meet with your stalker.
- When away from home, carry a cell phone. When possible, alter your daily routines, go out with friends, and advise friends and family of your plans.
- File a report with the police, regardless of how silly the harassment may seem at the time.
- If you feel you are in immediate danger, call 911.
- If the problem persists, get help. Call a professional to help you resolve the problem.
- Keep a detailed log of every encounter, including every time you were followed, as well as every time you received a phone call or e-mail from the perpetrator. Do this as soon as something happens and write as much detail as possible, including how the perpetrator looked, sounded, and what they were wearing. If they were driving, try to record the color, make, and license plates of the vehicle.
- Do not tamper with the SIM card on your cell phone prior to speaking with an investigator.
- You should keep all mail sent by the suspect. This includes letters, packages, and computer e-mails. Store the letters and packages in a central location.
- Store all voice mails, text messages, and telephone numbers on your cell phone.
- Make sure your friends, family, neighbors, and co-workers know what is going on, and make a note of any information these acquaintances may have uncovered. For example, a neighbor may have observed a car he/she did not recognize in front of your house, or a friend may have received a call from the perpetrator.